"Our girls, we have to make sure they stay a virgin." Kesaia's mum Liliani wanted to raise her in New Zealand as a "proper Tongan girl". Now, Kesaia is an adult and a mum herself. She sits down with her mum to reflect on her upbringing and untangle what it means to be a Tongan woman when you’ve lived all your life outside of the Pacific kingdom. Does her mum still feel the same way?

Conversations With My Immigrant Parents is a podcast and video series where parents and children learn about each other anew, and confront those complex issues that are deepened by differences in generation and culture.

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